I remember running into a former co-worker a few years back and not recognizing her at first¡Xturns out this long-haired hippie chick was the über-butch who worked in a cubicle on my floor. The transformation was unbelievable. She looked like a different person. Meanwhile, Ms. Madison, the butch lesbian who lived on the street I grew up on and is an old lady now, still wears her butch uniform of t-shirts, overalls and work boots after all of these years.

So, yes, while there are diehard butches who will maintain their crew cuts for life and die with their Dickies on, there are other butches who become less militant about maintaining the look and even go super femme.

Generally, it's not an overnight transformation from butch to femme, of course. But there are butch women who have slowly but surely gotten in touch with their feminine side over the course of several years.

This is what is going on in the case of a friend of a friend of mine. This woman has been with her beloved butch a long time, but her butch has femmed up in recent years, growing out the short 'do she had when they first met and even experimenting with makeup. The butch's partner is not thrilled about this to say the least.

I find this so interesting, and I can relate despite the fact that I am into girly girls¡Xin fact, I have to admit that if my girlfriend cut her hair short and stopped wearing dresses, I wouldn't be physically attracted to her. As much as we'd all like to think we can look beyond a person's appearance and care only for who they are as a person, attraction just doesn't work that way.

Going back to the woman who has an issue with her butch getting more femme, can you understand why she'd have a problem with it? If your butch went femme, would you still be attracted to her?

And here's a question for all of you butch women: Like femmes, do you feel pressure to look a certain way to keep your partner happy?

(source: planet out)